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Self-coaching

Are you feeling bored, stuck or frustrated in your current role? The past two years have been unsettling (understatement) and you may feel it’s time for a change. If this is the case, here’s how you can use self-coaching to make the shift into a new future reality. Julia Kerr Henkel, MD of coaching consultancy Lumminos, is here to guide you through it.

The purpose of this self-coaching exercise

  • To gain clarity and to set a deliberate intention regarding your plans, actions, hopes, fears, needs and expectations for your future.
  • To articulate this for yourself in order to be able to articulate and “sell” it to others with clarity, confidence, conviction and authenticity.
  • To set aside conscious time to focus on what you want and need (prioritise your needs first).
  • To get focused on a strategy ie: Why? What needs to happen, be actioned, delayed, or re-prioritised.

Ready to set a brand-new intention? Let’s get started…

Set aside a few hours to work through these three categories of questions, imagining these are three different lenses through which you will look to gain a broader perspective.

Read through all questions first and then begin. It’s not about trying to finish all questions in one go; nor is it about getting the answers “right”. It’s about paying attention to what is.

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Reflection Questions # 1: 

In terms of my next step/future job/role…

  • Why is a change necessary or desired?
  • What is it that I’m running from?
  • How sure am I that it won’t follow me?
  • What is it that I’m running towards?
  • How sure am I that it will be there when I get to it?
  • What is my role in the “problem”? How have I contributed to the way things are?
  • What is my high dream (best hopes and expectations)? 
  • What do I really want for myself in terms of the kind of role and responsibilities I would like?
  • When I think back on my current or previous roles, which activities gave me the most energy, and felt natural and largely effortless?
  • What is my low dream (least favourable outcome)? 
  • When I think back on my current or previous roles, which activities felt like the most “hard work”?
  • Am I closer right now to my high or low dream? What supports this?
  • What are the qualities/strengths in me I can recognise as being valuable?
  • What skills can I own and bring to the fore?
  • Which skills/characteristics do others feed back to me which I can remember to bring to the fore?

Reflection Questions #2: 

In terms of my future job/role…

  • Who else is involved (significant others)? How might they be impacted, positively or otherwise?
  • What kind of professional culture do I want to work in? What would it feel like? What would I see and hear people doing or not doing?
  • What kind of boss do I want to report into, if at all? 
  • What kind and size of team do I want to manage or lead, if at all?
  • What kind of team do I want to work and partner with?
  • What is my hope in terms of the quality of culture i.e.: relationships and values this new organisation will offer?
  • Who else needs to be part of this decision? How will I involve them?
  • What support is available to me?
  • What kind of support do I need? How will I go about getting this?
  • What networks do I belong to? How am I connecting and reaching out to them?

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Reflection Questions #3: 

  • What are my financial realities and commitments for the next 3, 6 and 12 months?
  • Have I got savings/investments to draw on if necessary – for how long? Have I drawn up a budget of likely costs and expenses?
  • How much would I like and need to earn after tax? 
  • What industry/sector might it be in?
  • What kinds of products and services might it sell/offer?
  • What might its overall vision, strategy and structure be?
  • Where do I hope to be physically located in this new role?
  • How far am I prepared to travel/commute?
  • What kind/type of projects do I want to be involved in? 
  • What further information do I need? Where will I get this from?

Consider these options

Transitions involve three distinct phases: letting go (endings), navigating (the “in-between/disorientating” space) and new beginnings…

  • In order to begin this transition, what do I need to start letting go of now?
  • What do I want to carry forward into my next phase?
  • How will I prepare myself to enter this next phase?

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